Domestic violence survivors share stories at Town Hall

Published on Thursday, 5 October 2017 15:02
Written by Skyler Frazer

Staff Writer

NEWINGTON - Members of the Newington community shared their stories of domestic violence and discussed ways to prevent it last week night at Town Hall.

The community discussion was held on the heels of the shooting death on Gilbert Road of Patricia Torbicki. Torbicki was found shot dead in her front door at the family’s home around 9 a.m. Sept. 21. Michael Torbicki, Patricia’s husband, was found seriously injured from a gunshot wound about three hours later. Nearly immediately, police called Patricia Torbicki’s death a homicide and named her husband as a suspect.

The group did not discuss that incident, though, instead focusing on ways to help victims of domestic abuse and sharing their stories.

Sarah Gallardo, founder of the Newington-based domestic violence awareness advocacy group Sarah Speaks Up, hosted Thursday’s discussion.

“I am a domestic violence survivor. I was with my ex-husband - being abused - over a span of ten years, and I experienced sort of the gambit of abuse … from reproductive to financial abuse,” Gallardo said to the group of men and women. “I was actually shot at on one occasion. So these kinds of things are very near and dear to my heart.”

Gallardo said following her abuse, she went to a support group at the Prudence Crandall Center in New Britain. Eventually taking over the group as a support group leader, Gallardo has been reaching out to fellow survivors of domestic abuse, sharing her story and getting help for those who need it.

Audrey Carlson spoke about how her family overcame domestic abuse after her daughter was killed by an ex-boyfriend in 2002.

“It was the same case where you think it’s something you’d see in a Lifetime movie but it happens to somebody else,” Carlson explained. “It can happen to anybody, anytime, anywhere. It doesn’t matter where you live, it doesn’t matter who you are, it happens.”

Carlson said her daughter’s story was a classic case of “if I can’t have her, nobody can,” explaining that her daughter’s ex-boyfriend invaded their home and shot her dead.

Now, Carlson goes to schools and talks to young people about the signs of domestic violence and the importance of speaking up.

“If something doesn’t feel right in your gut, it’s not right,” Carlson said, reciting what she explains to students.

Recently, the Prudence Crandall Center held its annual candlelight vigil outside the front steps of the Prudence Crandall Center to remember victims of domestic violence in Connecticut. Survivors of domestic violence shared their stories and the names of people who lost their lives due to domestic violence last year in the state will be read at this year’s “Silent No More” candlelight vigil.

Lisa Backus contributed to this story.

Skyler Frazer can be reached at 860-801-5087 or by email at sfrazer@centralctcommunications.com.



Posted in Newington Town Crier, Newington News on Thursday, 5 October 2017 15:02. Updated: Thursday, 5 October 2017 15:04.